Listening to boys' voices -- A nationwide journey -- Moments of doubt -- Helping boys to be themselves -- Reaching out and listening to boys: a new approach -- Getting behind the mask -- The Real Boys' Voices Project -- pt. I. The secret emotional lives of boys. The secret emotional lives of America's boys: what they're really talking about -- Taking off the gender straitjacket -- The mask of masculinity and the double life: suppression and bravado -- The angst of becoming a man: coming of age -- Of two minds: having sex with girls -- The pressure to work and succeed -- Spirituality and renewal -- Bullying and teasing: fitting in and being left out : Overcoming bullying ; What if your child is bullying? ; What should boys who are bullied know? -- Sadness, depression, and suicide: sad boys or bad boys? : Is he bad or is he sad? ; How do you tell if a boy is depressed? -- pt. II. The cycle of rage and suicide. -- Traumatic violence: listening to boys from Littleton, Colorado -- The Columbine syndrome: fear of violence -- Abuse -- pt. III. Boys reaching out and connecting. Love for mother -- The dad connection -- Friendships and romances with girls -- Having male buddies -- Emotional intensity: connecting through sports -- Coming out as gay and supporting those who do -- pt. IV. Dealing with loss, loneliness, and shame. Pumping and crunching: body image and the media -- The sting of divorce -- Addictions: drugs, alcohol, and the media -- Loss: coping with injury, illness, and death -- pt. V. Boys in the world. Overcoming hatred, racism, and poverty: justice and action talk -- Music, art, and writing: boys talk through creativity -- Epilogue: Mentoring boys and creating safe spaces: a 15-step program.
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